Tips For Fingering Someone With a Vulva

Tips For Fingering Someone With a Vulva

Never fingered someone or feel like you're just not good at it? We know it can be intimidating but don't be nervous! We've got some tips to help improve your fingering game. 

Start Slow 

Vulvas aren't like a button you can just switch on. It actually takes up to 15 minutes for vulva-owner to reach an orgasm. This means, it's going to take some buildup. Start by playing slowly & gently and then gradually increase your speed and intensity. This allows your partner to get more blood flow (ie. arousal) down there while earning some moans up there. 

Pay attention to all of the vulva

Unless your partner requests your focus on one specific area, it's a great idea to stimulate the clit, vagina, and if your partner is into it, the anus. Just remember: if you go into the backdoor, wash up before you go back to the rest. 

Find the G-spot, if you can 

Don’t go on the hunt for El Dorado, but it’s okay to try! The most common way to stimulate the G-spot is the, "come-hither" motion using a finger or two against the front wall of the vagina. 

Play with the rest of their body

Overall body stimulation will enhance the sensations your partner is experiencing. Kissing, neck kissing, nipple play, and earlobe teasing are just some places to start. 

Don’t be afraid of using some toys

Adding toys to the mix are a good time for everyone involved. Not only can they hit the G-spot, but they are an erotic addition to playtime. 

Last but not least, ask your partner what feels good.

They can even show you how they like it, which adds another level of intimacy. There is no sex tip in the world that'll serve you better than your partner's individual erotic cues, so listen up.

Please be aware, while the risk of STI's is lower with hand-sex, transmission is still possible. You can reduce the risk of transmission by wearing a finger cot, or a nitrile or latex glove, if you or your partner have an STI or don’t know your status.

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